Porn is NOT about your private masturbatory life

"You need to balance keeping your values against your partner's entitlement to a private masturbatory life"

Recently through twitter I came across what I initially thought was a fabulous video debunking porn myths, what a great resource I was thinking, till the end when the conclusion was that porn is great and sex is great they're just different. 

Concerned I wondered over to the website that had created the video and discovered it was a website designed for young people aged 16 to 25 about health and well-being. The page on porn made some very good points but also had gaping holes. There was no discussion about making and distributing pornography - and for this age group that is definitely an issue. And the only reference to the exploitative nature of the industry was as one possible reaction a young women might have on discovering her boyfriends secret porn collection, no discussion about whether this is a well founded concern. 

Lets imagine for a minute the conversation was about finding out your partner is secretly a member of the BNP would being concerned about the racist nature of that group be one of several possible reactions and explored no further and would the ensuing advise be "you need to balance keeping your values against your partner's entitlement to a political life?" I would hope not.

What is the difference between balancing your values and compromising your values? I think there is a confusion of values with issues of taste. My partner does not expect me to drink coffee, get excited about football or history documentaries and nor do I actively try and convince him not to do the above, we have different interests. However he also knows that there is a long list of food stuffs that I will insist we do not buy, a limited number of places we can buy clothes from, and very specific places we keep our money. Because I do not want to be involved in the exploitation of any other human being. These are values I will not budge on, though sometimes do slip up on.

Most people masturbate at one point or another but porn is not about masturbating it is a juggernaut of an industry that is systematic degrading of all women (and many men) and exploitative and abusive of those women ensnared in the industry. We are human, humans beings have sexualities but porn is not humane. When a person chooses to watch porn it is not a private activity many others are involved and those others are humans and I will not compromise about that.